Attempt at socialising

[elusivek]

Please tell me my reaction is that of a normal human being

Or, do the ladies really like that kind of attention?

So, I came to know of a guy. Pretty fun initially. After some time, we added each other on Facebook to be able to message one another. He’s from overseas.

So far so good.

Some messages here and there. Regular stuff. How was work? Doing good?

Then it started to get strange. He gets all clingy and touchy-feely (ok, it’s all online, so not really touchy, but feely).

It starts to get “romantic”, but hey, I hadn’t indicated nor have I encouraged the… I dunno, acquaintanceship to head that way.

Oh how he misses me. Poems and stuff. (WTF?) Oh. And the whole part of “wanting to live with you” thing. Erm, sir, I don’t think it’s appropriate for that.

He says he wants to visit Asia. Sure, go ahead and visit. Then he asks me to find hotel quotes. WTF? Fine, so I just do a basic “expect 3-stars to cost this much, 4-stars this, and 5-stars that.”

A couple of weeks of no response, then he says I should go visit him (TF?). Anyway, after resolutely saying no, the regular exchanges continue, and well, I’m a petty person. He didn’t even thank me for the info. Jerk.

Suddenly he says he loves Macau and wants to live here. TF? WTF? WTBF?? “That’s a brave statement when you haven’t even been here yet,” and the conversation was left hanging.

Then he messaged me in December asking why I didn’t reply and I asked “I wasn’t aware there was a conversation going on”, as he should be the one saying/replying something. Then I added that I was really busy in December. (I mentioned, crazy December) and he replied, and I quote, “My girl is keeping busy.”

Alright, that did it. I flipped. I replied with a simple “I’m nobody’s girl. I’m not property,” and ignored him for another month. Yesterday, New Year’s, he sent a photo of a plushie Pikachu. It was obviously a ploy to get me talking, I was feeling generous with chatting, so I bit. “Cute. Happy New Year. How are you?” and he goes “Finally you reply. First girl in 2017.” Erm… okay I’m being willfully petty – but, he didn’t greet me back and he didn’t ask me how I’m doing, so I find that really rude.

You know what, I don’t get the male species of humankind. I really don’t. And I don’t want to waste my time trying to understand them. So I shall simply start tapering him off by means of selective sharing and slowly exclude him from viewing any of my content. I won’t block him as he will see that I blocked him, then he can create a new Facebook and add me. But anyway, I don’t add people I’ve never met in real life anyway, the few exclusion are a few of you Livejournal friends here, so that shouldn’t be a problem either. But yeah, that’s what I’m going to do. Bye, crazy guy.

Comments

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

Nah, that's a crazy guy. They love the internet, because it takes longer for their crazy to show up. Clearly he's too socially inept to be able to form any normal romantic relationships in person, and as you no doubt know, a lot of those guys have a semi-fetish for Asian women. I'd unfollow him, at the very least.

Also, don't you have your FB set up so that no one can just add you without your consent? That's pretty easy to do.

[notte0.livejournal.com]

Yes, my FB is friends only and people can only add me after I've reviewed them, so I'm not too worried with the weird strangers adding me part (I've rejected so many requests... Some people seem to think just because you're in the same town then you gotta add). I only add people that I do know/have met in person/know in some way or another.

I simply don't want to "just block him" as then he will get the message that I've blocked him. That's why I'm just slowly reducing the content that he can see on my timeline. This week it's the photos, later it's the text updates, and in the end everything else.

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

Well, it's your FB, your business, but why don't you want him to get the message that you've blocked him, or unfriended him, or whatever? It's the only way these guys learn when they've crossed a line.

[notte0.livejournal.com]

I could do that, yes, but I do know him in person, and we have a couple of common friends, both online and offline. If I just cut him off I'm worried he'd start badgering these common friends. Whereas if I just slowly taper him off, he might think I'm just not posting and not bother anyone. And hopefully forget about it.

At least, I hope so. So far, nothing yet, so I count myself successful.

[sayuri2023.livejournal.com]

He sounds like a weirdo :( Had known a fellow like him once..

[karmaku.livejournal.com]

Oh, no. Cut him out!

Edit: Reducing the content he can see is a great idea.

[notte0.livejournal.com]

Exactly what I'm doing. I'm worried if I just cut him off he'll start bothering our common friends

[kayaiem.livejournal.com]

no that's weird.

[katemacetak.livejournal.com]

eugh. There are some weird men online. I would at least add him to your restricted list, if you don't want to unfriend him completely.

[kurikuribebi]

This!

[notte0.livejournal.com]

Slowly getting there. I want to unfriend, even block, but am just worried he will bother our mutual friends.

[evilcoc0nut.livejournal.com]

Lol what a weirdo.

[kurikuribebi]

I actually encounter that kind of guy a lot. They feel safer behind the computer screen and tend to target girls they think don't get a lot of action for some reason or another.

[arrowwhiskers.livejournal.com]

Ughhhh I hate that thing guys do with the uninvited over-informality...the "my girl" etc. Always an eye-roller. Sometimes it can be forgiven if that's the only offense, but with all the other stuff? Heck no, I'd feel the same as you. Definitely time to cut him out.

[carriea31.livejournal.com]

That is crazy. I agree it is a good idea to phase him out.

[deadlevel.livejournal.com]

guy sounds like an emotionally stunted dud.