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Complicating uncomplicated things
Friday, 2 August 2024 09:33So with my new work location, I have to drive.
Well, I could take the bus to work, but I'd rather drive as I don't really feel like stuffing myself into a tin like a can of sardines day and night.
Our car park technically is only registered to Mom's car, but we lucked out with the actual location of the car park, so we can park 2 cars in that spot (weird spot that goes in deep to a dead end against a wall, so we can park 2 cars).
Now that I need to drive, Dad has no car to drive. I thought it was so natural that I finally get to drive my car (the car is registered in my name, yes. I bought that car when I got my first full time job). Dad says it's OK he will walk or take the bus now, but really, you can hear in his voice he's upset he has no car (despite his vocal protests of "It's OK!").
So we were in the market of buying a second-hand car. Our mechanic also deals with buying/fix-up/sell second hand cars, so we asked him. He said he didn't have anything on hand right now, and offered to lend us a car. At first, he wanted to lend us a Cooper S. He asked me "are you afraid to drive an European Car?" (Some differences with the signal lights and rain swipe levers, or something like that). I replied, "I don't mind, but since it's Dad driving, are you afraid to let my Dad drive the European Car?" And LOL mechanic was like, "nah, your Dad can drive your car" LOL.
Anyway, at the end of the day, mechanic said his friend just returned one of his Japanese cars to him, so he will lend us that car. It's a Toyota Will Cypha something. By the license plate, it's older than my car, maybe by around 6 months or 1 year. Good thing he's lending us this car, because I later found out the Cooper S was actually my Mom's friend's (ex friend? Frenemy?) husband's car. So I thought all was settled. We got the spare car for Dad, I can drive my car, no bother about my Sis as she will continue to drive Mom's car.
Dad throws a mini fit. He wants to keep driving MY car, because he's used to it, and that he sometimes takes Frankie the dog out on car rides, and he can't very well put Frankie in the mechanic's car (a borrowed car), right? So. He gets to drive my car *rolls eyes* and I have to drive the borrowed car. Oh well.
Since I've already registered with my workplace car park the details of my car, I have to de-register that and register the mechanic's car... a load of paperwork... and unfairness! I have a membership deal with the gasoline/petrol place with my car where I don't have to pay on the spot (it's by month-end settlement) and it's so convenient. But Dad gets that. Mind you, he drives the car and the gasoline fee gets deducted from my account. Now with the mechanic's car, I can't put it under my account (as the car is not under my name), so I have to pay every time I put gas. Ugh. Aaaand... I'm paying double! Before, when I didn't drive, I didn't mind so much to pay for Dad's gasoline as he would sometimes drive me around. But now I don't need him to drive me around, as I will be able to drive around myself....
And car park. I'm the one stuck with having to look for a car park in the street. Why is my life always so unfair? I'm the one who's bringing different fringe benefits to the home, but I never get to enjoy these benefits. It's the others that get to enjoy them (and hog them), and I am stuck having to do things without the benefits. Like Mom's car (that Sis drives) I was able to put that car into my account too, so Sis gets the postpaid benefit, and discount of gasoline too, but she just never pays me back on time. I have to nag her for weeks and only then she will pay me back.
Mom says I have to understand that she gets paid less than me, well, they have to understand getting paid more also means the responsibility and stress is very probably more too!
Apparently, Mom's friends thought "poor Sis" was having a hard time and "did charity" and paid into a fund for her. WTF? It's not like I want the same thing, but if they are paying money into her account, then in some form of thanks or repayment, you'd think when they need help, they'd ask Sis first? No. They never ask her. They all ask me. And they ask in such a way as if I HAVE to do it, or else. WTF? I threw a fit once to Mom and said, people should start to ask Sis for help. If she's so useless and admits that she can't do it, only then I will do it. She's receiving help from people, so she should put some effort in helping back first. Instead of outright just asking me. You may say I'm being petty and greedy that I'm just mad I'm not receiving the same money/help from them. In a way, it's a yes, but it's not simply just because of that. That's a whole other can of worms for next time.
Well, I could take the bus to work, but I'd rather drive as I don't really feel like stuffing myself into a tin like a can of sardines day and night.
Our car park technically is only registered to Mom's car, but we lucked out with the actual location of the car park, so we can park 2 cars in that spot (weird spot that goes in deep to a dead end against a wall, so we can park 2 cars).
Now that I need to drive, Dad has no car to drive. I thought it was so natural that I finally get to drive my car (the car is registered in my name, yes. I bought that car when I got my first full time job). Dad says it's OK he will walk or take the bus now, but really, you can hear in his voice he's upset he has no car (despite his vocal protests of "It's OK!").
So we were in the market of buying a second-hand car. Our mechanic also deals with buying/fix-up/sell second hand cars, so we asked him. He said he didn't have anything on hand right now, and offered to lend us a car. At first, he wanted to lend us a Cooper S. He asked me "are you afraid to drive an European Car?" (Some differences with the signal lights and rain swipe levers, or something like that). I replied, "I don't mind, but since it's Dad driving, are you afraid to let my Dad drive the European Car?" And LOL mechanic was like, "nah, your Dad can drive your car" LOL.
Anyway, at the end of the day, mechanic said his friend just returned one of his Japanese cars to him, so he will lend us that car. It's a Toyota Will Cypha something. By the license plate, it's older than my car, maybe by around 6 months or 1 year. Good thing he's lending us this car, because I later found out the Cooper S was actually my Mom's friend's (ex friend? Frenemy?) husband's car. So I thought all was settled. We got the spare car for Dad, I can drive my car, no bother about my Sis as she will continue to drive Mom's car.
Dad throws a mini fit. He wants to keep driving MY car, because he's used to it, and that he sometimes takes Frankie the dog out on car rides, and he can't very well put Frankie in the mechanic's car (a borrowed car), right? So. He gets to drive my car *rolls eyes* and I have to drive the borrowed car. Oh well.
Since I've already registered with my workplace car park the details of my car, I have to de-register that and register the mechanic's car... a load of paperwork... and unfairness! I have a membership deal with the gasoline/petrol place with my car where I don't have to pay on the spot (it's by month-end settlement) and it's so convenient. But Dad gets that. Mind you, he drives the car and the gasoline fee gets deducted from my account. Now with the mechanic's car, I can't put it under my account (as the car is not under my name), so I have to pay every time I put gas. Ugh. Aaaand... I'm paying double! Before, when I didn't drive, I didn't mind so much to pay for Dad's gasoline as he would sometimes drive me around. But now I don't need him to drive me around, as I will be able to drive around myself....
And car park. I'm the one stuck with having to look for a car park in the street. Why is my life always so unfair? I'm the one who's bringing different fringe benefits to the home, but I never get to enjoy these benefits. It's the others that get to enjoy them (and hog them), and I am stuck having to do things without the benefits. Like Mom's car (that Sis drives) I was able to put that car into my account too, so Sis gets the postpaid benefit, and discount of gasoline too, but she just never pays me back on time. I have to nag her for weeks and only then she will pay me back.
Mom says I have to understand that she gets paid less than me, well, they have to understand getting paid more also means the responsibility and stress is very probably more too!
Apparently, Mom's friends thought "poor Sis" was having a hard time and "did charity" and paid into a fund for her. WTF? It's not like I want the same thing, but if they are paying money into her account, then in some form of thanks or repayment, you'd think when they need help, they'd ask Sis first? No. They never ask her. They all ask me. And they ask in such a way as if I HAVE to do it, or else. WTF? I threw a fit once to Mom and said, people should start to ask Sis for help. If she's so useless and admits that she can't do it, only then I will do it. She's receiving help from people, so she should put some effort in helping back first. Instead of outright just asking me. You may say I'm being petty and greedy that I'm just mad I'm not receiving the same money/help from them. In a way, it's a yes, but it's not simply just because of that. That's a whole other can of worms for next time.
