On being petty
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elusivek After dinner one day last week, the family sat down and was just randomly chatting about stuff.
Somehow, the topic of money came up, and Sis mentioned how her workplace was still owing her salary payments. Mom was all "oh, you poor thing," and I just said, "But you have a lot of money in your bank account."
My Mom's internet banking account (managed by me) can see our oldest bank accounts, the accounts from when we were kids and Mom made it joint-name accounts; I'll just say "Kid-account" here onwards. I even made a joke, "You have more money on YOUR kid-account than I do."
Somehow, that led to Mom letting the cat out of the bag about her spinster friend having given money to Sis at one point in time. Euros.
"Why hadn't I gotten anything?" I asked. As I've mentioned many times before, I don't need the money, but I hate it when things aren't fair. Oh, life isn't fair, I know, and I don't mind it if it's made clear and said up front about. But having stuff hiding as if, secrets, that annoys me to no end.
Sis said (blaming Mom) "see what you did? You're the one to talk about that money."
Mom then explains that when Sis came back from Austria and had no job, that this spinster friend of hers felt sorry for Sis so gave her a "substantial donation in Euros."
Fine. You know what? So if being capable means just getting more work dumped on me, I'll not be capable from now on. And when that friend of hers needed help, who was the one that went out of all the trouble to help her get sh*t done?
Now, if you say, Sis had tried, but was unable to help, then they asked me, then fine. But no, it wasn't even in their thoughts, because the audacity of them, "Kat is always there to get work done."
Need shopping done? It's on me. Why? Want to have lunch at a particular restaurant? Kat can arrange the reservation. Kat has the connections. Because I do it when they ask. If it's Sis, they can wait till next year and it's not done. Well guess what, my connections are for work. If I'm doing anything for the home I do it the same other regular way as normal people. I call up the restaurant and ask.
Last night, Dad wanted to scan a document to send off to the Austrian pensioners thing, a "proof of life" thing to proof that he's alive and thus should still receive his pension. I scanned the document, sent it to the family group chat, and said, "I don't know German. Sis should go write the email for Dad."
Dad was like, "I don't need you to write any email, just send the document over."
I asked, "what, not even an email quoting your case reference and what the attachment is for? Sis spent 7 years in Austria learning German, she can help you write the email."
Immediately, Mom went all "protect her weakling daughter" and suggested that Sis doesn't know German and can't write the email, and I replied simply with, "much less do I know any German, having NOT had the chance to study there at any point in my life." Mom said Dad should write his email and then I type it for him. "What? Sis can't even type? No, I'm not doing the typing. I've scanned the document already."
My Sis owed me some money (minuscule amount) for the car circulation tax, because, I get stuff done way ahead before the deadline, and I paid for her when I went to pay for my car. That was January. She hasn't returned the money yet. Yet, she's able to do a crapload of shopping. Then she bought a special vacuum that I so happen also wanted, so I said, "let's split costs," she agreed, and I just deducted the amount from what she owed me. There was still a $490-something that she should be paying me.
She still hasn't paid the monthly "grocery money" yet either.
Today is her birthday. I'm going to be quiet about it and not mention, but if Mom (because she has to "look out for her weakling golden daughter") asks why I haven't given Sis a gift, then, "No, I'm not going to give her any Lai See. As per our usual practice, I would have given $500, and she owes me that amount of money anyway, so let's just make it a draw."
You wonder why I'm so annoyed with doing the all the work always. I don't really mind it, but I mind it A LOT when they take it for granted. Like yesterday, we went out for the family lunch. They were all just chatting and chin-wag and all that and no matter how many times I asked them what the heck they wanted to eat, they either ignored me or pretended not to hear. I placed the lunch order, then they criticized why didn't I order this and that and that too? "I asked, 4 times, nobody answered." And then they have the audacity to say I'm not paying attention to them at the dining table?
Somehow, the topic of money came up, and Sis mentioned how her workplace was still owing her salary payments. Mom was all "oh, you poor thing," and I just said, "But you have a lot of money in your bank account."
My Mom's internet banking account (managed by me) can see our oldest bank accounts, the accounts from when we were kids and Mom made it joint-name accounts; I'll just say "Kid-account" here onwards. I even made a joke, "You have more money on YOUR kid-account than I do."
Somehow, that led to Mom letting the cat out of the bag about her spinster friend having given money to Sis at one point in time. Euros.
"Why hadn't I gotten anything?" I asked. As I've mentioned many times before, I don't need the money, but I hate it when things aren't fair. Oh, life isn't fair, I know, and I don't mind it if it's made clear and said up front about. But having stuff hiding as if, secrets, that annoys me to no end.
Sis said (blaming Mom) "see what you did? You're the one to talk about that money."
Mom then explains that when Sis came back from Austria and had no job, that this spinster friend of hers felt sorry for Sis so gave her a "substantial donation in Euros."
Fine. You know what? So if being capable means just getting more work dumped on me, I'll not be capable from now on. And when that friend of hers needed help, who was the one that went out of all the trouble to help her get sh*t done?
Now, if you say, Sis had tried, but was unable to help, then they asked me, then fine. But no, it wasn't even in their thoughts, because the audacity of them, "Kat is always there to get work done."
Need shopping done? It's on me. Why? Want to have lunch at a particular restaurant? Kat can arrange the reservation. Kat has the connections. Because I do it when they ask. If it's Sis, they can wait till next year and it's not done. Well guess what, my connections are for work. If I'm doing anything for the home I do it the same other regular way as normal people. I call up the restaurant and ask.
Last night, Dad wanted to scan a document to send off to the Austrian pensioners thing, a "proof of life" thing to proof that he's alive and thus should still receive his pension. I scanned the document, sent it to the family group chat, and said, "I don't know German. Sis should go write the email for Dad."
Dad was like, "I don't need you to write any email, just send the document over."
I asked, "what, not even an email quoting your case reference and what the attachment is for? Sis spent 7 years in Austria learning German, she can help you write the email."
Immediately, Mom went all "protect her weakling daughter" and suggested that Sis doesn't know German and can't write the email, and I replied simply with, "much less do I know any German, having NOT had the chance to study there at any point in my life." Mom said Dad should write his email and then I type it for him. "What? Sis can't even type? No, I'm not doing the typing. I've scanned the document already."
My Sis owed me some money (minuscule amount) for the car circulation tax, because, I get stuff done way ahead before the deadline, and I paid for her when I went to pay for my car. That was January. She hasn't returned the money yet. Yet, she's able to do a crapload of shopping. Then she bought a special vacuum that I so happen also wanted, so I said, "let's split costs," she agreed, and I just deducted the amount from what she owed me. There was still a $490-something that she should be paying me.
She still hasn't paid the monthly "grocery money" yet either.
Today is her birthday. I'm going to be quiet about it and not mention, but if Mom (because she has to "look out for her weakling golden daughter") asks why I haven't given Sis a gift, then, "No, I'm not going to give her any Lai See. As per our usual practice, I would have given $500, and she owes me that amount of money anyway, so let's just make it a draw."
You wonder why I'm so annoyed with doing the all the work always. I don't really mind it, but I mind it A LOT when they take it for granted. Like yesterday, we went out for the family lunch. They were all just chatting and chin-wag and all that and no matter how many times I asked them what the heck they wanted to eat, they either ignored me or pretended not to hear. I placed the lunch order, then they criticized why didn't I order this and that and that too? "I asked, 4 times, nobody answered." And then they have the audacity to say I'm not paying attention to them at the dining table?
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Date: 2023-03-09 06:30 (UTC):( *hugs*