It all comes back to the same thing
Friday, 7 November 2025 18:44![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
elusivekI had thought this... preferential treatment was over, but apparently, this will always happen and be the same.
I'm already in my 40s, my sister mid-40s. There was a while where I really made a lot of ruckus because of the preferential treatment my Sis gets from Mom. Mom bought some home insurance thing (or some insurance, I don't know) and sole beneficiary is my Sis. She got her friends to "fund" money to my Sis. I remember as a kid, I would ask for something for Christmas, they'd say no, but then when my Sis asked for the very same thing, she went running to get it.
I get it, I'm not the preferred kid. She says it's because "I'm capable so she doesn't have to take care of me" but hey, that's still not fair. You know, if she admits that yes, she likes to treat my Sis better than me I probably wouldn't be so miffed. It's her arguing that "she's fair" and "treats everyone the same".
I'm sure it's just that she doesn't like me.
In my Form 3 year (9th Grade I think?) I was selected to be the Master of Ceremony of that year's graduation ceremony. I trained for 3 months. I got tickets. Mom REFUSED to go because "I'm not the one graduating, why should she waste time going there?"
The other day, my cousin's kid's volleyball team was going to have a game. They know for a fact that THEY WILL NOT WIN, and the game is to get the 3rd place. My Mom went to see. "They wouldn't be the 1st anyway" didn't appear in her verbiage.
Well. So the other day, Mom asked me to postpone my next birthday lunch because she is going on a trip on my birthday weekend.
I'm like, well, sure, but also depends on cousin (I have a cousin that shares the birthday week, so we tend to host the lunch together). Well, yesterday, my Mom offered to take my Sis on that trip with her. So it's my birthday weekend, but it's my Sis that gets invited to a trip. I give up.
I had thought of plans to go to Taipei again the week after my birthday (because on my birthday weekend there's going to be an Ayumi Hamasaki concert and I wanted to go see that), but in the end since my friends weren't too keen, so I thought of just leaving the weekend open. I'm kind of thinking about just f*cking it all and I won't host a birthday lunch and instead do a solo trip.
I do hate to be continuously be complaining about that, but when it's getting obvious that it isn't sibling rivalry/envy and that it's really preferential treatment, ugh, I'm a bit upset, yes, but I'm going to adopt an I-don't-care attitude. It's what they say, right? It's only when you don't care that it means that you're not dependent on that.
I'm already in my 40s, my sister mid-40s. There was a while where I really made a lot of ruckus because of the preferential treatment my Sis gets from Mom. Mom bought some home insurance thing (or some insurance, I don't know) and sole beneficiary is my Sis. She got her friends to "fund" money to my Sis. I remember as a kid, I would ask for something for Christmas, they'd say no, but then when my Sis asked for the very same thing, she went running to get it.
I get it, I'm not the preferred kid. She says it's because "I'm capable so she doesn't have to take care of me" but hey, that's still not fair. You know, if she admits that yes, she likes to treat my Sis better than me I probably wouldn't be so miffed. It's her arguing that "she's fair" and "treats everyone the same".
I'm sure it's just that she doesn't like me.
In my Form 3 year (9th Grade I think?) I was selected to be the Master of Ceremony of that year's graduation ceremony. I trained for 3 months. I got tickets. Mom REFUSED to go because "I'm not the one graduating, why should she waste time going there?"
The other day, my cousin's kid's volleyball team was going to have a game. They know for a fact that THEY WILL NOT WIN, and the game is to get the 3rd place. My Mom went to see. "They wouldn't be the 1st anyway" didn't appear in her verbiage.
Well. So the other day, Mom asked me to postpone my next birthday lunch because she is going on a trip on my birthday weekend.
I'm like, well, sure, but also depends on cousin (I have a cousin that shares the birthday week, so we tend to host the lunch together). Well, yesterday, my Mom offered to take my Sis on that trip with her. So it's my birthday weekend, but it's my Sis that gets invited to a trip. I give up.
I had thought of plans to go to Taipei again the week after my birthday (because on my birthday weekend there's going to be an Ayumi Hamasaki concert and I wanted to go see that), but in the end since my friends weren't too keen, so I thought of just leaving the weekend open. I'm kind of thinking about just f*cking it all and I won't host a birthday lunch and instead do a solo trip.
I do hate to be continuously be complaining about that, but when it's getting obvious that it isn't sibling rivalry/envy and that it's really preferential treatment, ugh, I'm a bit upset, yes, but I'm going to adopt an I-don't-care attitude. It's what they say, right? It's only when you don't care that it means that you're not dependent on that.
