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Proud-ish moment
Sunday, 16 April 2017 20:57I've been so busy the past week, I didn't even have time for anything for myself - I apologize. In fact, I have something I want to share from almost 2 weeks ago, but I really didn't have the spare time to write that down...
2 Tuesdays ago, it was a public holiday. My sister was in Japan, so it was just me, and Mom and Dad. We went out for lunch, and then somewhere along the duration of the lunch, Mom made a comment about a cousin going to send his kid to a summer program in the UK.
I commented that "that's something I had always wanted to do, but you always said no."
Mom goes "I'm sorry I wasn't able to afford that." Well, truth betold, I thought that wasn't the issue. We weren't filthy rich, but we were okay financially. The issue was, I was always led to believe, by the time I knew of and asked Mom if I could join the program, the deadline was just a day or 2 away, and she couldn't make the proper arrangements, whatever they were.
Now that she said that, perhaps the arrangements were financial arrangements.
I just said "that's why I'm now always flying here and there, to compensate," and I thought that would end the topic nicely.
Dad laughs and says "haha, you (Mom) always needed to control your kids anyway."
And Mom gets mad and very sternly tells him off. "You don't know your own daughter. There was no need for me to control her. I let her go to her tutors alone at night and all that. She was always a good girl."
Wow. Oh wow. First actual praise from Mom. I'm very much flattered. And in a way, proud too. I never gave my Mom any kind of usual teenage drama trouble (boyfriends, truancy, bad friends, excessive partying, etc...). There was some poor grades in Maths and Religion in Grade 7, but later I got a tutor for Maths and that dealt with my trouble, and later I don't know how I became the Vice-Chairperson of the Religious Affairs Committee of the Student Union (oh, the irony in that), but that was that.
So yeah, I finally hear the affirmation from my Mom that I was a good girl!
2 Tuesdays ago, it was a public holiday. My sister was in Japan, so it was just me, and Mom and Dad. We went out for lunch, and then somewhere along the duration of the lunch, Mom made a comment about a cousin going to send his kid to a summer program in the UK.
I commented that "that's something I had always wanted to do, but you always said no."
Mom goes "I'm sorry I wasn't able to afford that." Well, truth betold, I thought that wasn't the issue. We weren't filthy rich, but we were okay financially. The issue was, I was always led to believe, by the time I knew of and asked Mom if I could join the program, the deadline was just a day or 2 away, and she couldn't make the proper arrangements, whatever they were.
Now that she said that, perhaps the arrangements were financial arrangements.
I just said "that's why I'm now always flying here and there, to compensate," and I thought that would end the topic nicely.
Dad laughs and says "haha, you (Mom) always needed to control your kids anyway."
And Mom gets mad and very sternly tells him off. "You don't know your own daughter. There was no need for me to control her. I let her go to her tutors alone at night and all that. She was always a good girl."
Wow. Oh wow. First actual praise from Mom. I'm very much flattered. And in a way, proud too. I never gave my Mom any kind of usual teenage drama trouble (boyfriends, truancy, bad friends, excessive partying, etc...). There was some poor grades in Maths and Religion in Grade 7, but later I got a tutor for Maths and that dealt with my trouble, and later I don't know how I became the Vice-Chairperson of the Religious Affairs Committee of the Student Union (oh, the irony in that), but that was that.
So yeah, I finally hear the affirmation from my Mom that I was a good girl!
